Read the PLO and Hamas charters. Watch their media on https://palwatch.org and https://memri.org. Here's a sample: https://medium.com/lessons-from-history/what-is-palestinianism-to-know-listen-to-palestinians-leaders-and-followers-8f3aa4f537c9

Show the Palestinians the respect of taking them at their word.

"destroy with glee": pure confession by projection. Watch Hamas' livestreamed murders and rapes, to which multiple Hamas terrorists have confessed to: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XpVqDrze1og

Or listen to this Arab doctor who saw the results with her own eyes: https://www.newsweek.com/i-saw-children-hamas-beheaded-my-own-eyes-shame-queen-rania-opinion-1855472

But, of course, it's me too, unless the woman's a Jew.